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Sometimes relationships are difficult, really difficult. But there is something that drew us to that person in the first place. Diving deeper into your relationship can help you awaken the love you may have have lost.

I think that this simple statement expresses much of what couples therapy is about. Generally, couples are often so mired in their frustrations that they no longer give one another the good feedback that came naturally earlier in their relationship. Very often people get recognition and admiration everywhere but at home. This is not necessarily because the spouse just doesn’t see anything positive anymore. Couples who are coming to therapy because they want to see if they can

Many relationships begin with the belief that we have found the right person instantly. While intuition can be meaningful, it is also often shaped by unconscious patterns formed long before we are aware of them. The fantasy of the soulmate suggests that another person will complete us, protect us from pain, or heal old wounds. In reality, we are often drawn to what is familiar, even when what is familiar is painful. Therapy helps bring these patterns into awareness so choices

All relationships are shaped by separation, from the moment we enter life to the moment we leave it. Even our closest bonds carry the reality of eventual loss. Yet beneath the fear of losing one another is a deeper estrangement many people live with every day, a disconnection from their own selves. Much of the struggle in relationships comes from hoping another person will fill that gap. Therapy invites a different shift, toward greater self-awareness and personal responsibil

Falling in love is powerful and instinctual, and in the beginning it can feel all-consuming. Over time, though, projections fade and real life brings conflict to the surface. When that happens, many people repeat familiar patterns learned long before the relationship began. If those patterns remain unseen, they often follow us from one relationship to the next. Real change begins when we stop searching for the person who will make us whole and instead turn inward, taking resp